Four of My Favorite Sexuality Books — & I’m Giving Them Away

In my office there is a bookcase that belongs completely to me, & on its shelves it stores all of my favorite reads relating to sex & sexuality, feminism, erotica, self-discovery, & other sensual pleasures.

Every book resting on those shelves I consider a treasure, both of knowledge & sentiment. I adore my books, & any that I add to my collection I add with the intent to keep them for the rest of my life. I very, very seldom loan books out. I like the idea of having them always, as though just their being there emits wisdom upon me.

And as much as I’d love to hold onto all of my books for sentimental reasons, I can’t help but think that some of them could serve someone in my community much better than if they were to sit on my bookshelves & collect dust (which they continue to do).

So. . . in the spirit of Spring cleaning, I’m giving away four books from my personal collection.

These four books are very special to me because they were the first sex/sexuality books I read when I began to step into my sexuality & eagerly seek oneness with my sensual, feminine self.

Here’s what I’m giving away (with dog-eared pages lovingly intact). . .



For Yourself absolutely transformed me, & because of this it is a book I have recommended most to women who have asked me which books they should read as they dive into sexual self-discovery. (Perhaps I’ve even recommended it to you.)

I bought For Yourself when I realized that not only was I completely ignorant about my sexual self — my body, especially — but I had some deep core wounding that had never been tended to. Feelings of shame haunted me incessantly as I tried to come out of my shell sexually, & it wasn’t until I started reading this book that I began to make peace with my natural erotic side.

Of all the books on my bookshelf, this one is the most treasured because of its impact on me. I read this book three times in two years when I was in my early, early twenties. The wisdom it gave me, the comfort I was immersed in as I read each chapter, helped me feel less alone & thus more normal. Sex Love Liberation exists because of this book.

  • This one’s perfect for. . . sensual ingenues who are just beginning to explore (or are becoming reacquainted with) their sexual essence.

The Sexually Confident Wife was the first book I read as I entered into a steady sexual relationship with my fiance (now-husband). Before we moved in with each other, I was very confident in sexuality. But as soon as we became serious, I became frigid (for lack of a better word). Suddenly I was conflicted about sex & couldn’t pinpoint why. This was a lonely & confusing time for me.

Reading The Sexually Confident Wife helped smooth the ridges in my sexual relationship at the time, & allowed me to have a better understanding of my role as wife/girlfriend/lover — which, I soon found out, was not a “role” (i.e., duty) at all, but simply a celebration of my feminine sexuality.

I found this book on sale at a bookstore in Pasadena, CA. I bought it randomly & without knowing it would shift my perspectives of sexuality & my capacity as a female for pleasure.

  • This one’s perfect for. . . sensual ingenues in a committed relationship who seek sexual confidence & connection with their erotic capacity.

Mars & Venus in the Bedroom was a book I bought for Jonathan & I to read together. We were newlyweds at the time, & I was still learning what it meant to be a sexual adult female & partner. I was also fervently curious about how different my sexual expression was from his, & I wanted us to continue in our sexual relationship with maturity & harmony.

Through Mars & Venus in the Bedroom, I learned the importance of speaking openly about sex with my partner. It also helped me to understand how he & I are different in our sexual expressions, thus giving me a deeper appreciation & respect for them both.

  • This one’s perfect for. . . at-heart sensualists in committed relationships who desire to wax poetic with their partner about sex & sexuality & explore the unique polarities between masculine/feminine sexual tendencies.

The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl’s Sex, when I first got it, terrified me. I bought it on a whim to push past my comfort zones & try a “naughtier”, more bold sexual persona. But as I paged through the book & read through the exercises, I remember feeling my stomach drop. This, of course, was a good thing, a signal that I was going to be stretched for the better, but at the time I thought myself “unequipped” for erotic boldness.

Admittedly, sections of this book I didn’t get through because I stood in the way of my own potential — I didn’t think I had it in me. But I hope that you’ll give it the love it deserves. It truly is a great read.

  • This one’s perfect for. . . sensual ingenues & budding sex goddesses with a curiosity for naughtiness & a desire to play beyond their comfort zones.


Leave a comment below telling me which book(s) you’d love to add to your collection & why. From there, your name will be entered to win one of the books you selected.

If all four resonate with you, say so, & your name will added to each pool, giving you one entry per book.

Four winners will be selected at random & announced Friday, May 10th by electronic mail.

And the winners are. . .

Roni, Courtney, Laurel, & Zuri! (Check your inboxes, beauties.)

Thank you everyone for playing. If you didn’t win, don’t worry. I’ll be doing this again sometime soon. I’ve got lots of books that could go to good homes. xx

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