USING SENSUAL SELFIES TO CELEBRATE & HEAL YOUR SEXUALITY

What if you could completely transform your sexual self-image and finally feel confident that you’re a sexual, sensual being because you’ve seen it with your own eyes?

We’ve been encouraged to keep our sexuality hidden—as a way of being respectable, modest, and to keep this holy and fundamental part of us shamed. 

We’ve been taught that it’s inappropriate to show ourselves as fully actualized sexual beings outside of the bedroom, and we’ve been conditioned to see those who show themselves off sexually as sluts or attention whores. 

Because of these sex-negative lessons, many of us feel like our sexuality isn’t OK to be expressed or celebrated. 

And because of what we’ve been taught, it’s hard for us to really believe that we’re sexy or desirable because we’re so used to only being affirmed within the context of sex, so we seek that validation from others—namely, in the gaze and approval of our partners. 

I don’t think I have to tell you that having our erotic expressions thrive on the sexual affirmation of others is not healthy or sustainable. In doing so, you give your erotic power away to someone else.

But what would if you could take your erotic power back into your own hands? What if you could validate your own sexual radiance with your own eyes?

Introducing: Sexting Myself

 

Sexting Myself is a transformative, four-week sexual self-image shifting course + community that will guide you into loving your body and celebrating your sexuality through self-portraiture.

With Sexting Myself, we’ll be exploring and celebrating who we are as sexual beings, using our cameras to help us see how erotic and sensual we are. We’ll destigmatize our sensuall bodies and bring gentle awareness to our sexual expression.

All of this will be done in a judgment-free, women/femmes-only space that will foster the safety and privacy of everyone participating so they can explore freely.

Sexting Myself is as playful as it is healing. With this course, you will see your sexual confidence with your own eyes—finally.

Marian Wright Edelman says that you can’t be what you can’t see and it’s true.

We can’t be sexually liberated beings unless we see ourselves as sexually liberated beings.

Sexting Myself will show you your sexual radiance through your own eyes.

 


 YOUR SENSUAL SELFIE FACILITATOR

Hey! My name is Ev’Yan Whitney and I use sensual self-portraiture to help me see and affirm my sexuality.

For the longest time, I’d look in the mirror and wonder what it was about me and my body that would be seen as erotic. Outside of sex, I felt clunky and girlish in my body—not at all sexy.

It wasn’t until I started taking sensual selfies that I finally began to see a shift in the way I considered myself sexually. Every selfie I took was photo evidence of my softness and sensuality that I couldn’t dispute.

Through sexting myself, I found a sexual identity that is all my own, one that is independent of a man’s desire or sexual needs, one that leaves me feeling powerful, sensual, and feminine.

That’s why I created Sexting Myself. I want all of that for you, too.

So many things have changed for me as a result of me taking sensual selfies:

  • I feel more comfortable in my body
  • Sensuality feels more present and easier to access in my daily life
  • My libido has gone way up because I feel more confident to express myself sexually
  • I show up to sex more fully and feel confident to ask for what I want
  • I found a deep love and acceptance of my body—flaws and all

But especially—

When someone tells me that I’m sexy or sensual, I believe them because I’ve also seen my sexual radiance with my own eyes.

I don’t need anyone else to validate my sexual expression anymore. I’ve taken my erotic power back and affirm it daily with my own gaze for my own pleasure.

 

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 Some of my own selfies that have helped me find sexual acceptance.

 

WHAT YOU’LL GET IN THIS COURSE

  • Sensual selfie assignments + lessons sent conveniently to your inbox every other day
  • A digital guide packed with tips + tools so you can take your best selfies
  • One group mentorship session with me to answer your questions and give you personal guidance
  • Photo inspiration for you to practice and explore new poses
  • Powerful journal prompts to help you heal + reclaim your sexuality
  • Priority support and encouragement from me
  • Access to our secret, members-only forum where you can share your uncensored selfies confidentially

 

 

The best part—a private, confidential community with me and a squad of babes to cheer you on

Included in Sexting Myself is a super private, members-only forum where you can share your selfies with the other women/femmes taking the course.

This is the most powerful feature of Sexting Myself because in this community, you will have your sexual radiance and sensual essence seen, affirmed, and celebrated outside of the heteronormative, patriarchal male gaze. 

We won’t sexualize or objectify you. We won’t insert any opinions or judgments onto you. We will simply hold space for you, encourage you, and celebrate your sexuality. 


BIG LOVE FROM PAST STUDENTS

“This course completely transformed my relationship with my body and sensual power, my ability to compassionately work through my habitual self-criticism and body shame, and my appreciation for other women, their histories, and their diverse (read: beautiful) bodies. It was an absolute honor to have shared this experience with these women, to have been able to get vulnerable with them and to have received their vulnerability. I have never encountered greater support and acceptance. I feel big and powerful and sexy and in love with every inch of myself. Ev’Yan, thank you for giving us this opportunity and guiding us.” —Rem

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“This was a beautiful course that felt accessible and daring. Sexting Myself was an opportunity to reconnect to a part of myself that I hadn’t felt in some time. Thank you, Ev’Yan.” —S.C.

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Sexting Myself felt like the safe space I needed to openly express my sexuality in ways that could help facilitate my healing from sexual trauma. The selfies forced me to face the negative feelings I had around my body. Doing the course uprooted a lot of the shame I had around sex, showing my body, and seeing my body in a positive way. Sexting Myself helped me realise that the same way traumas can heal by being brought into the light, bodies can also find acceptance through permission to take up space in front of other’s eyes.” —SLK

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“I’ve been wanting to take pictures of myself for a long time but didn’t feel like I was ready somehow. It was something that I kept putting off until I had more time, energy, etc. This course was the push I needed and I signed up for it on a whim. Thank you so much for doing this, Ev’Yan!” —Renée

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“I’m 32 and a mom of 3 and never had the courage to take sexy photos of myself. I never even tried. I was shamed a lot about my body when I was young. Was told it was bad to be sexy and to just be ‘cute’. I took the course the first time and was still feeling defeated when the course was over. I still wasn’t confident in my photos. But when the next round of the course came around, I committed to doing the course all the way through again. I committed to loving myself. This time there was a huge shift for me. Every time I took a photo I began to see the beautiful things. I didn’t see my flaws anymore. I saw my soul in every picture. I saw the deepest parts of me. The raw parts. The vulnerable parts. I’m so grateful to Ev’Yan for leading such a safe community where women can talk about how they feel as they go through the sensual selfie journey. I now have a boyfriend, and I’m sending him sexy photos when he’s out of town and he’s loving it. It’s been great for my confidence and helped me feel sexy and good for my relationships too!” —K Luna

. . .

Sexting Myself was truly such a beautiful journey. Taking these photos has shifted my mindset about myself in ways I never thought possible. Just two weeks of these sexy selfies and I notice things about myself now, things I love. I don’t just look in the mirror and see flaws. I actively search out things to love, things to cherish and adore. Things that are SEXY. And having a community of like-minded women who are going through that same journey and feeling such similar things is just so amazing. I will cherish this experience forever and I will continue to take sexy selfies and open myself to the self-love this course has helped blossom in me. —Kait Rooney

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After starting the course, I had sex for the first time ever with someone other than my ex-husband, and I stood there naked in front of him, completely unafraid and unabashed. It was an incredible feeling. It hadn’t even occurred to me to be shy, I guess because I’d already shared this beautiful body with the Sexting Myself community. I feel liberated. I feel free. I feel in love. Thank you thank you thank you for this life-changing course. —Wilderone


THIS ISN’T ABOUT TITILLATION,
IT’S ABOUT CELEBRATION

It’s about seeing our bodies and ourselves in a sensual, soft, erotic light. It’s about creating our own sexual narratives that don’t involve the usual harmful tropes our culture applies to femme sexuality.

It’s about taking our erotic power back.

One of the most powerful things I’ve realized through taking sensual selfies is that my sexual expression isn’t only for the gazes and pleasure of men. My sexuality is for my gaze, for my pleasure, first and foremost.

This is not vainglorious or frivolous. By turning the camera lens on ourselves in this way, we’re exercising sexual agency and ownership that is constantly trying to be stripped from us, and we’re changing the notion that this area of our lives is reserved only for our romantic partners.

And we’re having fun with it to boot!

Continue this movement.

You deserve to know how sexually radiant you are.

 

Love, Ev’Yan xo

 


ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS

1. When does Sexting Myself start exactly?

It starts as soon as you buy. So, for instance, if you buy today, you’ll receive your first selfie assignment tomorrow morning. You will have access to the private community, the course outline, and the official guide immediately.

2. The private community sounds amazing, but I’m still nervous about how private it’s going to be.

Your privacy and security are of the utmost importance to me, and I have put certain systems in place to ensure everyone’s safety, like having certain commenting guidelines, screening each member, and having everyone sign a contract written by my lawyer before they join that they’ll follow non-negotiable rules of confidentiality in the community.

Of course, it’s not foolproof (I mean, this is the internet) but trust that I’ll be doing everything in my power to keep you and your selfies protected.

3. Am I required to share my photos with everyone in the private community? Do I have to join the group?

Not at all. Participation in the forum is completely optional and I’ve designed this course so you can take it in the privacy of your own experience if you prefer. Actually, many people have chosen to go through the course privately and their experience was just as transformative.

The forum is just a little bonus you can take advantage of if you want your selfies witnessed and celebrated by like-minded, sex-positive women like you. 

Rest assured: While taking this course, you will never be pressured to do or share anything beyond your comfort levels.

4. I don’t identify as a woman, but I do ID as femme. Can I join this course?

Yes! This course is for femme-aligned, gender non-conforming, and trans femme folks of all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, orientations, and abilities.

5. I’m a man (or a male-identifying person). Can I take this course?

If you’re male-identified and would like to take this course, contact me. I’ve created something just for you.

6. My body doesn’t look like a model’s. Can I join the course?

Of course! Sexting Myself is for all body types and abilities.

7. I’m under 18, can I participate in this course?

Sorry, you must be 18+ to take Sexting Myself.

8. Am I required to go fully nude in my selfies?

No! The unofficial motto of Sexting Myself is “As bare as you dare” and you’ll be encouraged throughout the course to honor your own comfort levels—even if that means you’re only comfortable taking sexy selfies in a one-piece bathing suit.

No matter where you are, we’ll still be celebrating you and telling you how much of a babe you are.

9. Do I get a refund if I don’t like this course?

There are no refunds due to the content being digital, some of which are delivered immediately. So please shop mindfully!

 


*Art by Lovette Zola

© 2018 Ev'Yan Whitney / #sextingmyself