A FEW OF MY FAVORITE THINGS

I began my journey toward sexual freedom while reading one of Anaïs Nin’s diaries in a quiet corner. From there, my mind was opened to a way of being that always felt off limits to me. My own curiosity guided me to awakening.

Since then, I’ve been devouring books on the erotic and have developed an extensive library on all things sexuality and self-actualization.

I don’t believe that sexual liberation needs to be an arduous undertaking. It can (and should) come from tiny steps taken toward following your curiosity. And if you’re curious and looking for a place to dive in, this page is for you!

Here are some of my favorite books that have helped me blossom into a sexually liberated woman, and have helped my clients as they’re on their path of sexual self-discovery.

*Note: The links below are affiliate links, which means that if you buy through this page I’ll get a small commission from the sale. Thank you!


Healing Your Sexuality

Sexual trauma, shame, and how to find healing.

Healing TraumaPeter A. Levine

Yes Means YesJessica Valenti

Secret Bad GirlRachael Maddox

The Body Keeps ScoreBessel A. Van Der Kolk

The Courage to HealEllen Bass, Laura Davis

Trauma is Really StrangeSteve Haines


Sexuality & Erotic Expression

Solo sexual relationships (i.e., masturbation), orgasm, and uncovering your erotic power.

For YourselfLonnie Barbach

Sex For One — Betty Dobson

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal — Sheri Winston

Exhibitionism for the Shy — Carol Queen

The Emergence of the Sensual Woman — Saida Desilets

Women’s Experience of Sex — Sheila Kitzinger

Full Exposure — Susie Bright

Promiscuities: The Secret Struggle for Womanhood — Naomi Wolf

Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski


Body Love & Self-Acceptance

Self-care, self-love, yonis, and honoring your natural rhythms.

I’ll Show You Mine — Wrenna Robertson

The Women’s Belly Book — Lisa Sarasohn

Coming Home to Myself — Marion Woodman

The Way of the Happy Woman — Sara Avant Stover

Radical Acceptance — Tara Brach

Cunt Coloring Book — Tee Corinne


Love & Relationships

Non-monogamy, masculine/feminine polarity, and tantra.

The Ethical SlutDossie, Easton

Opening Up — Tristan Taormino

Sex at Dawn — Christopher Ryan, Cacilda Jethá

Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel

Urban Tantra — Barbara Carrellas

Dear Lover — David Deida

Slow Sex — Nicole Deidone

Men in LoveNancy Friday

The State of AffairsEsther Perel


Divine Feminine & Wild Woman

Goddesses, witches, and other feminine archetypes.

Wild Feminine — Tami Kent

Women Who Run With the Wolves — Clarissa Pinkola Estés

She — Robert Johnson

Goddesses in Everywoman — Jean Shinoda Bolen

What French Women Know — Debra Ollivier

Witches, Sluts, Feminists — Kristen Sollee


For Black women & women/femmes of color

Intergenerational trauma, respectability politics, and sexuality at the intersection of race and gender.

Ain’t I A Woman — bell hooks

Stolen Women — Dr. Gail Elizabeth Wyatt

Longing to Tell — Tricia Rose

The Sisters Are Alright — Tamara Winfrey Harris

Zami: A New Spelling of My NameAudre Lorde

This Will Be My UndoingMorgan Jerkins


Porn & Erotica

Diverse, queer-of-center, feminist, and hot. (18+)


Other amazing sex-positive websites


My favorite sex toy

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My favorite digital sex shop 

For vibrators, lube, dildos, and educational resources

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