You’re here because you desire. You desire an easeful connection to your body, to experience sacredness and safety in sex, and to feel completely uninhibited in the expression of your sexuality.

You know you're meant to experience incredible amounts of pleasure without shame. Perhaps you've caught glimpses of it in the past—that self-possessed, sexual confidence that you can't stop hungering for.

And you want so badly to come back to that place (maybe for the first time) where sex comes naturally for you and where you feel comfortable in your own skin.

But you feel disconnected from your body.

Shame has kept you from fully inhabiting your sexual self. Fear has blocked you from prioritizing your pleasure. Trauma has hindered your ability to show up to sex fully and freely.

You feel like the voice of your sensual body has been silenced, that your radiance has been dimmed. And sometimes you've even thought to yourself, “I am broken.”

That’s where I come in. But not without first saying: You are not broken.

In fact, I believe that you are sexually whole; that that wholeness is innately with you—always has been, always will be.

Your sexuality is needing a safe, non-judgmental space to be reclaimed and a gentle process to get you to return to a state of confidence, connection, and safety.

And I want to guide you.

My name is Ev’Yan Whitney. I'm a sexuality doula™ and advocate for pre-erotic womxn.

My deepest purpose is to help womxn and femme-identifying folks reclaim their erotic power from oppressive forces and guide them to experiencing the full spectrum of their sexual expression—with confidence, ease, and deep healing.

I've helped thousands of womxn heal and honor their sexuality and have watched in awe as they blossom beautifully into the erotic, self-loving, sensual, powerful beings they've been hungering to be.

I do this healing work from the root of my intuition and from the deep inner wisdom I have garnered and harnessed in the 10+ years I've been studying and reclaiming my own sexuality.

The way I work might be a bit different from the kinds of coaching or mentorship you’ve had in the past, for we (you and I) will be playfully and gently exploring the realms of your inner erotic self—the one who's underneath the shame, the fear, and the trauma. The one who is curious, emotionally intelligent, vocal about her desires, and is ready to be manifested out into the world.

When I work with you, I’ll be asking you about the deep wants of your heart and body. I’ll be holding space for you as you resolve your trauma. I’ll be encouraging you to delve deep into self-care and self-pleasuring rituals that nourish and ground you as you begin to heal and step into new states of being. I'll be holding you accountable to the desires you have and the parts of yourself that you want to be explored and uncovered.

And, of course, I’ll be asking you how the sex is.

But we won’t just be talking about sex.

One of the philosophies that guides me in this work is that everything is connected—your relationship to your body is connected to the way you move in this world, which is connected to your feelings of self-worth, which is connected to the way you desire, which is connected to the way you express yourself sexually.

I believe—I know in my bones—that if something is off in your sex life, your life outside of sex is probably out of alignment too, and vice versa.

So, in some sessions we might talk about your creative projects, other days it’ll be your relationship to orgasm. It might seem a little scattered, and you might even think to yourself, How is any of this even related to sexual liberation?

But I promise you: It’s all connected. And this gentle, holistic, intuitive approach has transformed the lives (and sex lives) of all who have worked with me.


"An amazing advocate for the feminine. . ."

Ev'Yan, I loved working with you and appreciate how you embody and radiate what it can mean to be a sensual, sexual, present and powerful woman in every aspect of my life. Thank you for your resources, your guidance, your support and your wisdom. You are doing such important work in the world and I am thrilled to have shared this part of my journey with you. —Valerie T


When you and I begin, we’re going to dive deep into your sexual center.

We’re going to talk about your desires, the relationship you have with your body, and whatever old stories you’re subscribed to that are keeping you from being sexually free.

In our sessions, we might begin to uncover—

  • How to get you out of your head and into your body during sex
  • How to bring more pleasure to your daily life
  • Sensuality—what that means and how you can embody it on your terms
  • Resolving any traumatic experiences that have impacted your sexual wellbeing
  • What it means to step into your erotic power
  • How to ask for what you want—both in and out of the bedroom
  • Deconstructing the sex-negative beliefs that are keeping you inhibited

All the while, I’ll be holding space for you, gently guiding you toward sexual freedom and profound self-acceptance.

*I work with anyone who identifies as womxn or femme—including trans and non-binary folks.


We’re going to heal and liberate your sexuality.

When you choose to work with me, you’re signing up for a three-month sexual healing intensive. During these three months, you and I will go deep into unshaming your sexuality through weekly sessions that’ll get you to unpack what’s keeping you from being sexually free with lots of space for you to explore the sexual being you want to be.

All sessions will be done in a safe, non-judgmental environment where your needs and tender self will be honored and respected. Each session will be fine-tuned and tailored to your unique healing process.

I will ask questions about your inner world. I will hold sacred space for you as you dismantle old stories that block your access to sexual liberation. And I will meet you wherever you’re at, even if who you are in this session is drastically different from who you were last week.

Our work will be as profound as therapy, as down-to-earth as a conversation with your favorite friend, and as transformational as a session with a healer.

Here’s what working together will look like logistically—

  • Weekly 60-minute voice-to-voice sessions
  • Fun and playful assignments to get you to practice embodying sexual liberation
  • In-depth after-session notes to help you track and celebrate your progress
  • Fierce accountability, emotional affirmation, and empathetic witnessing
  • Access to me (Ev’Yan Whitney) by text via my personal number
  • Personalized book/article recommendations and resources
  • Free access to my digital courses and programs
  • Email support and encouragement between sessions

Investment: $3,000.00

This is an investment in your lasting sexual freedom.

This work is not for dabblers or for people who want a quick fix. It’s for those who are ready to make a dramatic and deeply transformative shift in their erotic lives—once and for all. 

The clients I accept are resourceful, ready to make a lasting transformation, and are committed to investing emotionally, energetically, and financially in themselves and their sexual healing. 

If that’s you, I’m ready if you are.

*Payment plans available. I also offer sliding scale for certain cases.


I change people’s sex lives.

“I am in absolute awe of the transformation and blossoming that has taken place for me while working with Ev’Yan. It’s been literal magic. I have discovered parts of myself that I was longing to connect with. And I am more confident, body-conscious and tapped into my sensual power than ever before. She created the safest, most empowering space for me to explore my deepest desires, and has helped me completely redefine my relationship with my body. I am endlessly grateful for this experience!” —Che Che L.

. . .

“Ev’Yan—Working with you allowed me to connect to parts of myself I’d long forgotten. I saw the beauty in my femininity, in my sensuality and in my vulnerability. I know that whatever I want or need, is ok, and it is my birthright to ask for that to be met. This is such a gift, and although I’ve seen some delicious results from this already, I know that this will continue to have a deep and profound effect in my life for years to come. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. It was a privilege to work with you.” —Brooke S.

. . .

“Working with Ev’Yan makes me feel light and happy, even when we are exploring some heavy stuff. She is a master at asking exactly the right questions, gently and playfully guiding growth and transformation. I have seen amazing shifts in my life since we began working together; I’ve let go of stories that were keeping me scared and unhappy, explored my desires in sexuality and romance, and really stepped into my power as a wild warrior woman!” —Kate M.

. . .

“Before working with Ev’Yan, I didn’t feel 100% comfortable with my body or my sexuality. Ev’Yan guided me to find the truth of who I am and made it safe for me to uncover aspects of my sexuality and desires in a way that felt totally safe and natural. I never felt judged and that made me feel really loved and secure in order to do this very vulnerable work. Since working with Ev’Yan, I now love and accept my body as the beautiful temple it is, and I love my sex life! I have freed myself from the old baggage that kept me from fully expressing myself sexually.” —Meghan K.

. . .

“Since working with Ev’Yan, I feel like I’ve undergone huge personal transformations that have left me feeling more confident, happier and more in tune with my authentic truth. Ev’Yan helped me trust my inner guidance more and realize that I have an amazing wellspring of knowledge to tap into. My decision to work with her was the first domino piece that lead me to my new partner, more fulfilling sex life, and a more authentic path.” Janet B.

. . .

“I was hoping for growth, for a change in how my sensual and sexual self interacted with the world. I hoped to come to a place without shame, without fear. I had no idea just how many harmful behavior and thought patterns would be revealed and challenged during our sessions. With Ev’Yan’s help, I’ve given myself permission to be truly liberated. Thank you, Ev’Yan for your compassionate listening and guidance. You’ve given me a tremendous foundation to continue my work.” —Lonette R.

Your tender, vulnerable parts are safe with me.

What you’re feeling (or have felt) about your sexuality, your body, your relationship—the frustration, the disconnectedness, the shame, the sadness—I’ve been in the same places.

And while these feelings of shame and frustration and brokenness are likely true for you, I want you to try in this moment to connect to the part of you that brought you to this page, the part of you that desires.

Perhaps that desire comes in the form of a burning hunger deep within your belly or an ache in your longing heart for something more, or a subtle, gentle pull toward Yes, it’s time.

Whatever form it takes, it’s there—this inner knowing that you have the capacity to be succulent, sensual, and deeply connected to pleasure is always there.

And that’s where we’ll start—by speaking to that part of you. 

Ready to take the first step in
your sexual liberation journey?

*Now booking for March 2019

Fill out an application below and give me a glimpse of you. After you hit submit and if I think we’re a good fit, we’ll set up a free 30-minute Chemistry Call in the next few days where we’ll talk about what it might be like to work together.

Why I ask: It's very important that the people I work with are prepared to make both an energetic and financial investment to do this deep work. So please consider and answer this question honestly. Thank you!

So many womxn make their erotic life the last thing that gets their full presence.

Other things always take precedence—the career, the kids, the romantic partnership—and we keep hoping that our sexual lives will just work itself out eventually.

But what I’ve seen is this:

When we finally give our sexuality the nurturing and exploration it deserves, everything else—work, relationships, spirituality, the way we create—falls beautifully in place.

No more putting it off. The time for sexual awakening and healing is now.



I can’t wait to watch you blossom into the sexually liberated being I know you are.



“It’s a rare gift to find someone who is able to
tenderly hold space with one’s vulnerabilities.”

When I opened myself to this experience I knew even as I felt inner fears and ghost trembles that there were parts of me thirsting to be seen. When I heard your voice I felt that the decision to give voice to this call was the only right thing I could have done for the self I want to become. I am grateful for your wise energy, your tenderness and the lightness with which you guided me during these sessions. —Jasmine K.


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