(Note: Occasionally, I get a question from a reader that is compelling enough to become an article all its own. This is one of those questions.)
What is your view on working out to achieve a different body? Is that not having self-love if you don’t like how you look and want to change it?
I see many big women coming to self-love realizations, and although I am happy that they are happy, I can’t do that myself. I feel that even though I should not think negatively about myself, exercise and eating healthy will no doubt bring me to my ideal bodies.
I guess I am confused about self-love.”
I suppose it depends on the reason one is choosing to achieve a different body in the first place.
If you are exercising & striving to lose weight as a way of showing your body devout & loving attentiveness, then I absolutely believe that can be a form of self-love.
But if your wanting a different body stems from societal pressures & is coming from a place of nonacceptance, you’re likely going against your natural self. This “going against yourself*” & wanting to be someone else is a subtle form of self-hatred.
Self-love is self-care, & self-care can mean a plethora of things.