What if you could finally feel confident that you’re a sexual, sensual being because you’ve seen it with your own eyes?

We’ve been encouraged to keep our sexuality hidden—as a way of being polite, as a way of being modest, as a way of keeping this holy part of us shamed.

We’ve been taught that it’s inappropriate to show ourselves as fully actualized sexual beings outside of the context of sex, and we’ve been taught to see the ones who show themselves off sexually as sluts or whores.

Because of these sex-negative lessons, so many of us feel like our sexualities don’t really belong to us.

And because of what we’ve been taught, it’s hard for us to really believe that we’re sexy or desirable, so we seek that validation from others—namely, in the gaze and approval of our partners.

I don’t think I have to tell you that having our erotic expressions thrive on the sexual affirmation of others is not sustainable. In doing so, we’re giving our erotic power away to someone else.

But what would if you could take your erotic power back into your own hands? What if you could validate your own sexual radiance?

Introducing: Sexting Myself—

Sexting Myself is a 14-day digital class + community that will teach you the art of taking sensual selfies as a method of radical self-love and sexual acceptance.

Each day, you’ll receive an assignment via email where you’ll be challenged to take a selfie following a particular theme/subject. Each assignment will be accompanied by journal prompts you can use to help you find deeper peace with your sexuality and body as you’re uncovering.

With Sexting Myself, we’ll be exploring and celebrating who we are as sexual beings, using our cameras to help us see how erotic and sensual we are. And all of this will be done in a judgment-free, women- and femmes-only space that will foster the safety and privacy of everyone participating so they can explore freely.

As we play with sexting ourselves, we’ll not just be having fun—we’ll be doing deep work around uncovering and healing our erotic expression. We’ll destigmatize our sexual bodies and bring gentle awareness to our sensuality.

This class is as powerful as it is whimsical.

Marian Wright Edelman says that you can’t be what you can’t see and it’s so true.

We can’t be sexually liberated beings unless we see ourselves as sexually liberated beings.

Sexting Myself will show you your sexual radiance through your own eyes.





Hey! My name is Ev’Yan Whitney and I use sensual self-portraiture to help me see and affirm my sexuality.

For the longest time, I’d look in the mirror and wonder what it was about me and my body that would be seen as erotic. Outside of sex, I felt clunky and girlish in my body—not at all sexy.

It wasn’t until I started taking sexy selfies that I finally began to see a shift in the way I considered myself sexually. Every selfie I took was photo evidence of my softness and sensuality that I couldn’t dispute.

Through sexting myself, I found a sexual identity that is all my own, one that is independent of a man’s desire or sexual needs, one that leaves me feeling powerful, sensual, and feminine.

That’s why I created Sexting Myself. I want all of that for you, too.

So many things have changed for me as a result of me taking sensual selfies:

  • I feel more comfortable in my sexual body
  • Sexual energy feels more present in my daily life
  • My libido has gone way up because I feel more confident to express myself sexually
  • I show up to sex more fully
  • I have found a deep love and appreciation for my body

But especially—

When my man tells me that I’m sexy, I believe him—not just because I trust his words, but because I’ve seen my sexual radiance with my own eyes.

I don’t need my husband’s validation about my sexual expression anymore. I’ve taken my erotic power back and affirm it daily with my own gaze.



 Some of my own selfies that have helped me find sexual acceptance.



  • 14 easy and fun selfie assignments sent to your inbox every morning
  • A digital guide with tips, tricks, and tools so you can take your best selfies
  • Helpful photo examples so you can experiment with your selfies with ease
  • Powerful questions with each assignment that’ll help you heal and explore your sexuality
  • Our very own hashtag to use if you want to post on Instagram
  • Access to Ev’Yan during the class for support and encouragement


The best part:
A squad of babes to cheer you on

Included in Sexting Myself is a super private, members-only forum where you can share your selfies with the other people taking the workshop.

This is the most powerful feature of this class because in this community, you will have your sexual radiance and sensual essence seen, affirmed, and celebrated outside of the heteronormative, patriarchal male gaze. 

We won’t sexualize or objectify you. We won’t insert any opinions onto you. We will simply hold space for you, encourage you, and celebrate your sexuality.





“This workshop completely transformed my relationship with my body and sensual power, my ability to compassionately work through my habitual self-criticism and body shame, and my appreciation for other women, their histories, and their diverse (read: beautiful) bodies. It was an absolute honor to have shared this experience with these women, to have been able to get vulnerable with them and to have received their vulnerability. I have never encountered greater support and acceptance. I feel big and powerful and sexy and in love with every inch of myself. Ev’Yan, thank you for giving us this opportunity and guiding us.” —Rem

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“This was a beautiful course that felt accessible and daring. Sexting Myself was an opportunity to reconnect to a part of myself that I hadn’t felt in some time. Thank you, Ev’Yan.” —S.C.

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“Sexting Myself felt like the safe space I needed to openly express my sexuality in ways that could help facilitate my healing from sexual trauma. The selfies forced me to face the negative feelings I had around my body. Doing the class uprooted a lot of the shame I had around sex, showing my body, and seeing my body in a positive way. Sexting Myself helped me realise that the same way traumas can heal by being brought into the light, bodies can also find acceptance through permission to take up space in front of other’s eyes.” —SLK

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“I’ve been wanting to take pictures of myself for a long time but didn’t feel like I was ready somehow. It was something that I kept putting off until I had more time, energy, etc. This workshop was the push I needed and I signed up for it on a whim. Thank you so much for doing this, Ev’Yan!” —Renée

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“I’m 32 and a mom of 3 and never had the courage to take sexy photos of myself. I never even tried. I was shamed a lot about my body when I was young. Was told it was bad to be sexy and to just be ‘cute’. I took the course the first time and was still feeling defeated when the class was over. I still wasn’t confident in my photos. But when the next round of the course came around, I committed to doing the course all the way through again. I committed to loving myself. This time there was a huge shift for me. Every time I took a photo I began to see the beautiful things. I didn’t see my flaws anymore. I saw my soul in every picture. I saw the deepest parts of me. The raw parts. The vulnerable parts. I’m so grateful to Ev’Yan for leading such a safe community where women can talk about how they feel as they go through the sensual selfie journey. I now have a boyfriend, and I’m sending him sexy photos when he’s out of town and he’s loving it. It’s been great for my confidence and helped me feel sexy and good for my relationships too!” —K Luna

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Sexting Myself was truly such a beautiful journey. Taking these photos has shifted my mindset about myself in ways I never thought possible. Just two weeks of these sexy selfies and I notice things about myself now, things I love. I don’t just look in the mirror and see flaws. I actively search out things to love, things to cherish and adore. Things that are SEXY. And having a community of like-minded women who are going through that same journey and feeling such similar things is just so amazing. I will cherish this experience forever and I will continue to take sexy selfies and open myself to the self-love this workshop has helped blossom in me. —Kait Rooney

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After starting the course, I had sex for the first time ever with someone other than my ex-husband, and I stood there naked in front of him, completely unafraid and unabashed. It was an incredible feeling. It hadn’t even occurred to me to be shy, I guess because I’d already shared this beautiful body with the Sexting Myself community. I feel liberated. I feel free. I feel in love. Thank you thank you thank you for this life-changing course. —Wilderone


It’s about seeing our bodies and ourselves in a sensual, soft, erotic light. It’s about creating our own sexual narratives that don’t involve the usual harmful tropes our culture applies to femme sexuality.

It’s about taking our erotic power back.

One of the most powerful things I’ve realized through taking sensual selfies is that my sexual expression isn’t only for the gazes and pleasure of men. My sexuality is for my gaze, for my pleasure, first and foremost.

This is not vainglorious or frivolous. By turning the camera lens on ourselves in this way, we’re exercising sexual agency and ownership that is constantly trying to be stripped from us, and we’re changing the notion that this area of our lives is reserved only for our romantic partners.

And we’re having fun with it to boot!

I hope you’ll join this movement.

You deserve to know how sexually radiant you are.



Love, Ev’Yan xo





1. When does the workshop start exactly?

It starts the day after you buy. So, for instance, if you buy today, you’ll receive your first selfie assignment tomorrow morning. You will have access to the private community and the digital zine immediately.

2. The private community sounds amazing, but I’m still nervous about how private it’s going to be.

Your privacy and security are of the utmost importance to me, and I have put certain systems in place to ensure everyone’s safety, like having certain commenting guidelines, screening each member, and having everyone sign an agreement before they join that they’ll follow non-negotiable rules of the community.

Of course, it’s not foolproof (I mean, this is the internet) but trust that I’ll be doing everything in my power to keep you and your selfies protected.

3. Am I required to share my photos with everyone in the private community? Do I have to join the group?

Not at all. Participation in the forum is completely optional and I’ve designed this class so you can take it in the privacy of your own experience if you prefer. Actually, many people have chosen to go through the class privately and their experience was just as transformative.

The forum is just a little bonus you can take advantage of if you want your selfies witnessed and celebrated by like-minded, sex-positive women like you. 

Rest assured: While taking this class, you will never be pressured to do or share anything beyond your comfort levels.

4. I don’t identify as a woman, but I do consider myself femme-aligned. Can I join this workshop?

Yes! This workshop is for femme-aligned, gender non-conforming, and trans femme folks of all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, orientations, and abilities.

5. I’m a cis-dude (or a male-identifying person). Can I take this class?

Sorry, this class is for women and femme-identified folks only.

6. My body doesn’t look like a model’s. Can I join the workshop?

Of course! This workshop is for all body types.

7. I’m under 18, can I participate in this workshop?

Sorry, you must be 18+ to take this class.

8. Am I required to go fully nude in my selfies?

No! The unofficial motto of Sexting Myself is “As bare as you dare” and you’ll be encouraged throughout the workshop to honor your own comfort levels—even if that means you’re only comfortable taking sexy selfies in a one-piece bathing suit.

No matter where you are, we’ll still be celebrating you and telling you how much of a babe you are.

9. Do I get a refund if I don’t like this class?

There are no refunds due to the content being digital, some of which is delivered immediately. So, please shop mindfully!




*Art by Lovette Zola

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