Here’s some food for thought:
Orgasms are vital to your existence.
Dr. Sara Gottfried believes that we are in the midst of an epidemic of low vitality in our culture, & because of this we need to make orgasm a essential part of our lives, if nothing else than for the sake of our health.
Orgasm is ecstasy, to be sure, but its magnificent tinglings serves other purposes, deeper than what we immediately expect.
For starters, orgasm…
- raises oxytocin (the hormone of love & bonding), which, consequently, aids in building your bone density.
- improves & balances your thyroid function (responsible for the proactivity of your metabolism, among other things).
- lowers cortisol levels (what gets released from your adrenal glands when you’re stressed).
Clearly, orgasm has a plethora of amazing benefits, many of which we’re not readily made aware of.
As Dr. Gottfried proudly states:
“The more that I learn about [orgasm], the more that I learn about how to manage your oxytocin, the more I’m moving away from pharmaceuticals, which I think is a really beautiful thing.”
Here’s a short clip of her lecture:
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Sexuality is a skill that needs to be learned & practiced (& this is great news).
Around these parts, I’m prone to saying things like “innate sexuality” & “natural carnalities” when referring to the way our bodies have been designed to express our eroticism.
This can leave many of you scratching your heads because you might not feel naturally sexual or erotic; it might feel forced or “faked ’til you feel it.”
I get this; I’m often in the same boat myself.
So a few lightbulbs went off when I stumbled upon this great slice of knowledge as I was re-reading For Yourself, by Lonnie Barbach:
What this means is that while we are naturally erotic beings, we aren’t born well skilled sex goddesses (or gods). Our sexualities are cultivated by habit & practice.
And it gets better with age. Not simply because of what age we are necessarily, but because of hard-earned, real world, in the trenches experience.
Just like with anything else that requires mastering — knitting, tightrope walking, a bottle of Pinot Noir — sex & the expression of your sexuality becomes perfected with time.
So give it time.
- An orgasm (or two! or three!) a day keeps the doctor away.
- No need to feel rushed into being an all-knowing sex kitten. Go easy on yourself & know that the refinement of your sexuality requires time & practice.
- Start practicing.
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